slythwolf: Some unlucky soul has an incomplete Pai Sho set. (Default)
Because my ass is too lazy to be explaining them all the time and I am sick and fucking tired of sending people to the userinfo. These are the rules of this space which is mine and you will abide by them or you will get the fuck out:

Wolfie's (Original) Rules
1. This is my journal. I run it. That means it's my space, so you will respect my rules even if you don't like or agree with them. If you're not okay with that, nobody is forcing you to be in my space. In the words of an old friend of mine from many years ago, if you don't like it, GTFO.
2. When I say something about rape, I'm not looking for debate. You are not going to change my mind about what I think is and is not rape. This goes for what I think is and is not misogyny as well, and for what I think is and is not oppression, and you know what, basically if I make a statement (not a question) in an entry and your comment is intended to convince me why I am wrong about it, you need to reevaluate why you're here. Back to rule #1: my space, my thoughts, my message. You want to bloviate about why something isn't really rape or whatever, do it on your own damn journal.
3. If you and I are fandom friends, don't assume that makes us feminism friends. I may like and respect you but it doesn't mean I agree with you or even that I should. One of the concessions I make for my own survival under the patriarchy is that I'm friends with a lot of people I consider at least passively misogynist. This may or may not include you, but if you really really disagree with radical feminist theory, and/or if you consider yourself "sex positive" (which is a bullshit term on the level of "pro-life"), it's a pretty safe bet that it does. So if I tell you you don't get it, back off. I don't want to start having to defriend people but I will do it to protect my space.
4. I have been reading Twisty Faster for nearly a year now. I agree with damn near everything she says. If you don't understand why I would say some particular thing, you ought to go read Twisty for a couple of months and see if you get it then.
5. All of which is to say, no concern trolling. In fact, why not go whole hog, no trolling full stop.
6. There is no Rule 6.
7. The Wolf reserves the right to make up rules on the spot. This goes back to rule #1, too--my space, what I say goes. If I tell you to stop doing something, stop doing it.

The Additional Rules That Came Along Later
- Anonymous comments violating Rule #2 in such a way that demonstrates offensive levels of misogyny, regardless of the stated gender of the anonymous commenter (because here at the Wolfcave we recognize that women can and do internalize misogyny at offensive levels), will be summarily deleted. The Wolf reserves the final say on what does and does not count as an offensive level of misogyny.
- Calling me (or anyone) "crazy" is explicitly ableist and discriminatory against people with mental illnesses, and is therefore self-evidently unacceptable.
- You're goddamn right I'm stifling dissent. I am not the U.S. government. I am under no obligation to allow you freedom of speech.
- If you don't like it you can get your own motherfucking blog, asshole!
- Commenting anonymously is a privilege, not a right. I will revoke it if you (in the plural) are big enough assholes. Give me a reason, I swear to god, I am this close to disallowing anonymous comments already. Anonymous comments are not allowed. I have been burned by the shit in the past and you will suck it up.
- THIS IS NOT THE FEMINISM 101 BLOG. Do not ask me Feminism 101 shit. Do your own motherfucking research. I am neither your professor, your library nor your search engine.



Oct. 20th, 2009 12:27 pm
slythwolf: Some unlucky soul has an incomplete Pai Sho set. (Default)
Let's talk about what trolls do and what they are.

For one thing, they are bullies. One of you suggested I should ignore them and they would go away. This has never been my experience. My experience has not been that bullies, on the internet or elsewhere, are looking for attention. My experience has been that they are looking to upset someone. When they say and do shit calculated to upset they know they have upset me even if I don't respond.

For another thing, trolls are going to show up on any radical feminist blog--new and different ones if the old ones leave--until the patriarchy is actually history, because radical feminists are uppity women who need to be put in our place. Until I shut up and stop blogging, I will get concern trolls at the very least. I will get trolls asking me 101-level questions and trolls trying to derail me into what about the menz and but I love to suck dick what's wrong with you. Ignoring them does not stop them.

It lets them win.

If they comment anonymously and I delete specific comments but continue to allow anonymous comments in general they will just comment again. If I delete the comment, they will know by that sign that they have gotten to me, and if I don't, I still have to read the motherfucker.

If I screen anonymous comments I still have to read their bullshit in my inbox. There isn't some magical way I can screen comments and not have to see them myself, which is what I am concerned about. Let's face it, the Wolf is a Slytherin, I like you guys and all but I am not as concerned about how you might react (emotionally, whatever) to having to see this bullshit. This is not an exercise in altruism. I am upset about the shit myself, it's upsetting to me, I want to not have to see it.

Whereas if (when, maybe I should say when, I have pretty much decided to do this) I disallow anonymous comments I may have to read some bullshit from people with LJ accounts--and fuck, it is not difficult to make an LJ account, so there may be just as much bullshit--but I can have the satisfaction not just of deleting the comment but of banning the account. Do not pass Go, do not collect $200, get the fuck out of my journal. You know?

So yes, for the forseeable future, anonymous comments are gone.

Meanwhile my dentist was in a car accident and I don't get to have my root canal until next Thursday.

A "Poll"

Oct. 20th, 2009 03:17 am
slythwolf: Some unlucky soul has an incomplete Pai Sho set. (Default)
I do not have a paid account and thus cannot create actual polls. So I ask you this: Should I stop allowing anonymous comments? Occasionally I get a decent one but usually they just give me a headache; I started this journal with all these lofty ideals about how I would allow anonymous comments and only delete them when someone was a douchebag or couldn't spell or something, but to be honest I'm sick of having to deal with shit like anonymice saying "I really want to suck a dick right now" in response to my post about pleasing men not being women's job.

(FUCK OFF ANONYMOUSE, I DON'T WANT TO KNOW THAT MUCH ABOUT YOUR PERSONAL LIFE! Incidentally did you know there are some chemicals in semen that are only otherwise found in rotting corpses? Delicious! Enjoy!)

Or, god, the really obnoxious comment that only made it to my inbox--I was gone for some reason, I came back and this thing was there but it had been deleted from my actual journal--on my post about what triggers are someone had commented about oh yes I am totally triggered by the thought of a big strong man holding me down and raping me if by triggered you mean really turned on! (If one of you reported that and got it deleted--if that's even possible--THANK YOU.)

In short, the majority of the anonymice are trolls. I HAVE SO LITTLE PATIENCE FOR TROLLS RIGHT NOW. I am not the most patient person at the best of times (YOU WILL NEVER SEE MY ASS IN HUFFLEPUFF), but I am going through some shit right now and I am just not up to dealing with bullshit.

But sometimes some of my radfem friends who don't have LJ accounts comment here anonymously. And I like that. And I want to encourage it! But I can't get rid of the anonymous trolls and keep my accountless radfem friends! D: And true, it's not going to get rid of the trolls with LJ accounts (although I don't seem to have any of those YET), but when they happen I can just ban their asses if I want to.

I definitely need to start logging IP addresses. But should I stop allowing anonymous comments? Thoughts?


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